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Choices in Godís Will for A Helpmeet

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Westside Care Center Tuesday, April 10, 2006

Prayer Prin. 3A: Making Choices in Godís Will C. Pat Lanyon

Review: Last time we studied giving thanks to the Father as related to doing Godís Will. We learned that the whole idea of doing Godís will includes first being a qualified partaker of actual Christian living. There is an obvious focus on the Father! We gain a full understanding of the Ďmysteryí of Godís will. We come to appreciate what both the Father and also the Son do together in revealing and enabling us to do Godís will. There is peacefulness that controls, a unity that unites if we walk in it. It is a calling revealed through "psalms, hymns and spiritual songs" Ė all of which teach doctrine through Godís Word. Works done which are Godís will are done through Jesus, Godís Son toward the Father in an atmosphere of thanksgiving! And we finally observed the concept of light and itís obvious contrast to darkness, when we think of walking in Godís will.


Prayer Text as in Our Notebook: Now that I have understood better what it means to truly walk worthy of the LORD , I shall be even more enabled to make key decisions concerning Your will for my life. You will moment-by-moment and day-by-day lead me for these CRITICAL CHOICES: I now must make...

[2B. Walk worthy of the Lord]

2C. According to My Physical Reality: Decisions to ["Walk" in] do GOD'S WILL.

I must make good "life-affecting" decisions, including the major choices of life. I must prepare for and then execute the roles of life: I now consider the choice of my...

GE 2.18,24; 1 CO 7.1,7,24,35,40; MT 19.3_12

1D. MATE (Spouse for life)/ FAMILY

EP 5.25; 6.4 _________ anniversary Date; Spouse _______________ (Your spouse name here) Then include all children you are given by God, and pray for each here as well. Most valuable gift I could give to them: My faith in God.

Genesis 2:18, 24

And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

1 Cor. 7:1,7,24,35,40

Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 24 Brethren, let each one remain with God in that state in which he was called. 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgmentĖ and I think I also have the Spirit of God.

Matthew 19:3-12

The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" [4] And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' [5] and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? [6] So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." [7] They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" [8] He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. [9] And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." [10] His disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry."

[11] But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: [12] For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother's womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it."

Ephes. 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

Ephes. 6:4

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

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Observations and Conclusions Continued -- Page 3.

Page 3: Choosing a Helpmeet Conclusions and Observations:

  • It is good for man to marry, and marriage is an institution ordained of God, and is, therefore holy and perfectly acceptable to God. In fact it is probably Godís will for most people to eventually marry (MT 19:11-12)
  • It is Godís will for the child to leave his parents when marriage takes place, thus marriage with interfering parents is not Godís will and couples should carefully guard the tendency of parents to be interfering with their marriage.
  • When marriage takes place the TWO become ONE. This is Godís statement, thus, when two people join, God looks at it as marriage, and He calls them "ONE." This also means one male and one female (Genesis 5.2 He created them male and female, and blessed them and called them Mankind in the day they were created.)
  • 1 Corinthians 7 and the Act of Marriage: God arranged the act of marriage, and this is the only safe place for such a practice. It is clearly and absolutely forbidden to commit sexual acts any other place and in any other way than one man with one woman for all their lives together. All such activity OTHERWISE is everywhere called fornication and any deviation is bluntly referred to as abominable to God. Le 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. Le 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
  • If fornication occurs, prudence calls for investigation and if verifiable, separation. Some believe that this should lead to a biblical divorce, even though in the New Testament divorce is clearly hardness of heart to God. MT 19.8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
  • After separation the Apostle Paul encourages people to "remain in that state" which they may find themselves unless reconciliation is possible ( v.8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; v. 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.)
  • To the unmarried the Apostle recommended that they marry only if they are weak sexually uncontrolled. V.8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; v.9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
  • Some unmarried individuals should consider the gift of singleness as offered in Matthew 19. It is spoken of as an option that can be taken as a sacrificial choice. Paul was this kind of an individual. His sincere and powerful devotion to God is very clear and evident. (See v. 32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord--- how he may please the Lord.
  • Married people should be careful to maintain their sexual relations, except for individual chosen times for prayer, in order to have a pure companionship and proper relations.